SiF gets a letter from a listener who's recently experienced her first group sex play and learned later that her husband snuck in a little PiV action while she was rounding up a double-ended dildo in the other room. She had a great time but is hurt by the fact that he broke the rules.
She writes,

Hey Kidder -- My husband and I had two very hot and sexy single friends over last night. We all ended up naked in the kitchen and fooling around...and that leads me to my question. I'll break it down like this: The good news is that I finally got some girl on girl action. It was awesome! I got to play with boobies, finger her and eat box! :) I thought the whole thing went swimmingly well until my husband told me The Bad News: my he had some P.I.V. action with the other girl, which happened on the staircase while going to get a toy. I was not there. It was minimal, in and out 2 times before they recovered their senses and stopped. We were all pretty tipsy, and we didn't discuss boundaries before our impromptu sexytime. That may make me a very irresponsible SIF listener, but be that as it is...I feel SO betrayed and hurt. Alan KNOWS my boundaries with PIV and also with this particular woman. We've spent 9 years rebuilding the trust he broke when he cheated on me before we were married. I also feel like he ruined a perfectly INCREDIBLE, hot sexy encounter with our two friends. As you know, I've never done that before, it was a huge and much anticipated experience for me, and I think it rocked except for my seriously hurt feelings and his whackadooooo bullshit PIV action. :( Anyway, I'm pretty confused and I'm trying to be cool about it. He knows how I feel.

Thanks for listening, any advice from you, Jade, or anyone else would be helpful and welcome.

ps--Salt on the wound: I surprised him and got an iud for xmas so we could be fluid bonded, and now I want him to get screened for STIs, because the PIV was not protected. I'm so bummed. What is the incubation period?

pps--It's nice to hear you dropping the F-bomb again :)

We have a few drinks with Greg Delong of Njoy Toys. Kidder discovers that Nina Hartley is a fan of what Sex is Fun does. WOW! Kidder also discovers that Jamye Waxman is also a big fan of the show and book. Smitten Kitten knows how to throw a party. Extreme Restraints takes us out for dinner and we talk extreme toys and board games. Gay Rick went out with Smitten Kitten to a gay d ance club and has a fantastic time. Kidder kicks ass at craps.

Gay Rick ditches the straights and heads out to get laid, which he

does. Lorax and Kidder go to the Kasidie after-party at the Green Door on-premise Sex Club. Kidder makes stupid mistake after stupid mistake but eventually just ends up making out with a hot woman who makes it all A-OK. Then Ron Jeremy walks in... 

Porn is dying as free access to porn is killing the industry. The industry is beginning to realize that the prices on our games are reasonable as every other sex game sucks. 

Awesome people we met/saw:
Ron Jeremy
Jen Pritchett of Smitten Kitten 
Greg Delong
Kasadie
Buck Angle
Nina Hartley
Jamye Waxman

If you've ever wanted to know what it feels like to go to the AVN conference, listen to this show. While waiting for the taxi at the airport we played the game, "One of Ours?" to see if we could correctly guess who was headed to AVN or to the CES conference. The flags are simple. People who go to porn shows have a lot of bling, flash, and "look-at-me" flair on them.

Kidder's talks were difficult to present due to all the strippers everywhere. Kidder also was invited into a sex educators panel which was one of the most important things he did at the show.

Kidder met with the various churches that were there to save all the porn addicted heathens at the show. One church was called "The Naked Truth," The other was called "XXXChurch." Kidder showed Craig Gross the teen sex ed comic series and Craig liked it and proposed they do it together.

Awesome people we met/saw:
Buck Angle
Leo Laporte
Nina Hartley
Jamye Waxman
Craig Gross

While we're away at the AVN conference, Coochie gets an HIV and Syphilis test at the Pride Festival. Listen to Laura Rad, Gay Rick and Coochie as they wander around pride and interview all the happy people.