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I've been having this conversation with a few people lately, the double standard about bi males in the lifestyle. As swingers we seem perfectly happy (and expecting) that our women are bisexual. In fact, I don't know that I've met any swinger couples whose female portion isn't bisexual.
When it comes to sex toys and sex accessories, the women really have the men beat when it comes to variety. Sure, everything that can be purchased for women can technically be used by men, but really, once you get down to it, the two main categories of toys for men are things that go in our butts, and things that go on our cocks, or sometimes in our cocks if urethra-play is your pleasure.
I was out to lunch with my boss and a group of consultants working on a project we were doing to try to dramatically expand our business reach. (Unfortunately the business is not swing-related.) One of them brought up how much trouble they'd gotten into recently when he checked out another girl without first being wary of his wife's gaze upon him. The four other men sitting at the table gave their harrumphs in approval and agreement and grumpiness at the very idea, but also the knowledge that should their eyes have been caught wandering, they'd get the same fight.
With the world wide launch of the Sex is Fun! book (English version), I thought it would be wise of me to jot down the story of how this book came to life. For those who are interested in the back story, or wish to publish a book on their own, this article should tell you everything you need to know to understand how a naughty idea, becomes a naughty book.
So you bought a clitoral vibrator and it turns out it didn't rock your world. Don't spend time being sad that the toy everyone said was a sure thing was a letdown in your panties, channel your inner MacGyver and use these tips as resources to help make that vibe a winner.
Contributors
Kidder Kaper
kidder@sexisfun.net
Kidder has been theorizing and writing about human sexuality since 1993, when he began work on his primary goal: "Teaching the world to be unafraid to enjoy sex."
Laura Rad has been educating herself and others about sexuality for over seven years. You can find Laura every week chatting with the crew of the Sex is Fun Podcast.
Gay Rick is an HIV Educator and Co-Host on the Sex is Fun podcast. He is also a certified Hepatitis C Educator.
The in-house audio engineer.
John writes a blog titled We Sleep Together. He is in his twenties, and has been in an open relationship for six and some years.
The Walrus is an avid SIF listener, married, and recently became a proud father. He spends his days working in IT, but has always been interested in pushing the boundaries of traditional and conservative thoughts sexually.
Cooper Beckett's life isn't like other people's. When he's not writing or podcasting at Life on the Swingset, he's living it up with his wife Marilyn as evangelical swingers, spreading the good word that "sharing is caring."
Lorax runs everything behind the scenes at Sex is Fun. If she's not maintaining the website, gathering articles, or directing art you can find her wakeboarding or snowboarding with her husband.